我留心周围的人，看看是否有人也在享受这金灿灿的阳光，但每个人都是行色匆匆，多数人把目光投向地面。突然，我意识到自己以前也是如此，无视每一天的伟大。太多的琐事占据了我们的生活，以至于我们对生活中的一切司空见惯，而不曾用心感受并予以回应。
同这平凡的经历一样，我从中悟出的道理也平凡无奇：生活的恩赐无比珍贵——而我们却不曾珍惜。
生活极具矛盾性，它对我们的第一个要求便是：永远不要过于忙碌，而对人生中的奇妙与庄严视而不见。虔诚地对待每一天，拥抱每一小时，把握宝贵的每一分钟。
把握人生，但要有尺度，否则会产生副作用。这就是生命的另一面，即矛盾的一方：我们必须接受失去，学会如何放弃。
当然，做到这点绝非易事，特别是年轻气盛时，总以为我们可以主宰世界，以为只要激情满怀就会有足够的力量，绝对可以得到我们渴望得到的一切。然而，现实很快就会将这些幻想击碎，慢慢地，我们也将明白这第二条真理。
在人生的每个阶段，我们都会有所失去——但也会在这个过程中得以成长。我们只有离开母体，失去它的保护，才开始了独立的生命。我们踏上求学的阶梯，之后离开了父母与故土。我们结婚生子，之后放手让他们独立生活。我们面临着父母与伴侣的死亡，也面临着自身体力或缓或急的衰退。最终，正如那个握拳的寓言一样，我们必须面临自身的死亡，失去现实与梦想中的自我。
生命的安排如此矛盾，我们为何还要顺从？美好的一切为何总会转瞬即逝？心爱的人终将离去，为何我们还要用心去爱？
我们一定要去寻找更广阔的视角，透过永恒之窗来看待人生，以便解决这一矛盾。只要做到这一点，我们就会明白，我们的生命虽然有限，但我们于尘世所做的一切都将会成为永恒。
生命不只是存在，而是变幻莫测、无情地流逝。我们的身上延续着父母的生命，而我们的生命也将在孩子的身上得到继续。我们建立的制度会传承下去，而我们也将通过这些制度延续下去。我们创造的美好事物不会因死亡而暗淡。我们的肉体会腐烂，双手会消亡，但真善美所创造的一切却会永存世间。
不要将生命浪费在积聚那些终会归于尘埃的事物上。追求理想而非物质，因为能让生命充满意义的唯有理想，也唯有理想是永恒的。
将爱装进房子，你就拥有了一个家；让正义充满整个城市，就拥有了一个社会；将真理赋予一堆红砖，就拥有了一所学校；将公平赋予人类漫长的奋斗，就拥有了一种文明。将它们融为一体，并将其缺点予以完善，加上拯救人类的先见之明、永无奢求及不再斗争，便拥有了一个充满希望、光彩绚丽的明天。 。 想看书来
赖以生存的两条真理（2）
■ 心灵小语
赖以生存的两条真理：一是珍惜周围的一切；二是放弃欲念，追求心中的美好。
Two Truths to Live By
Alexander M。 Schindler
The art of living is to know when to hold fast and when to let go。 For life is a paradox： it enjoins us to cling to its many gifts even while it ordains their eventual relinquishment。 The rabbis of old put it this way： “A man es to this world with his fist clenched； but when he dies； his hand is open。”
Surely we ought to hold fast to life； for it is wondrous； and full of a beauty that breaks through every pore of God’s own earth。 We know that this is so； but all too often we recognize this truth only in our backward glance when we remember what was and then suddenly realize that it is no more。
We remember a beauty that faded； a love that waned。 But we remember with far greater pain that we did not see that beauty when it flowered； that we failed to respond with love when it was tendered。
A recent experience re…taught me this truth。 I was hospitalized following a severe heart attack and had been in intensive care for several days。 It was not a pleasant place。
One morning； I had to have some additional tests。 The required machines were located in a building at the opposite end of the hospital； so I had to be wheeled across the courtyard on a gurney。
As we emerged from our unit； the sunlight hit me。 That’s all there was to my experience。 Just the light of the —how warming； how sparkling； how brilliant！
I looked to see whether anyone else realized the sun’s golden glow； but everyone was hurrying to and fro； most with eyes fixed on the ground。 Then I remembered how often I； too； had been indifferent to the grandeur of each day； too preoccupied with petty and sometimes even mean concerns to respond to the splendor of it all。
The insight gleaned from that experience is really as monplace as was the experience itself： life’s gifts are precious—but we are too heedless of them。
Here then is the first pole of life’s paradoxical demands on us： Never too busy for the wonder and the awe of life。 Be reverent before each dawning day。 Embrace each hour。 Seize each golden minute。
Hold fast to life； but not so fast that you cannot let go。 This is the second side of life’s coin； the opposite pole of its paradox： we must accept our losses； and learn how to let go。
This is not an easy lesson to learn； especially when we are young and think that the world is ours to mand； that whatever we desire with the full force of our passionate being can； will； be ours。 But then life moves along to confront us with realities； and slowly but surely this second truth dawns upon us。
At every stage of life we sustain losses—and grow in the process。 We begin our independent lives only when we emerge from the womb and lose its protective shelter。 We enter a progression of schools； then we leave our mothers and fathers and our childhood homes。 We get married and have children and then have to let them go。 We confront the death of our parents and our spouses。 We face the gradual or not so gradual waning of our own strength。 And ultimately； as the parable of the open and closed hand suggests； we must confront the inevitability of our own demise； losing ourselves as it were； all that we were or dreamed to be。
赖以生存的两条真理（3）
But why should we be reconciled to life’s contradictory demands？ Why fashion things of beauty is evanescent ？ Why give our heart in love when those we love will ultimately be torn from our grasp？
In order to resolve this paradox； we must seek a wider perspective； viewing our lives as through windows that open on eternity。 Once we do that； we realize that though our lives are finite； our deeds on earth weave a timeless pattern。
Life is never just being。 It is a being； a relentless flowing on。 Our parents live on through us； and we will live on through our children。 The institutions we build endure； and we will endure through them。 The beauty we fashion cannot be dimmed by death。 Our flesh may perish； our hands will wither； but that which they create in beauty and goodness and truth lives on for all time to e。
Don't spend and waste your lives accumulating objects that will only turn to dust and ashes。 Pursue not so much the material as the ideal； for ideals alone invest life with meaning and are of enduring worth。
Add love to a house and you have a home。 Add righteousness to a city and you have a munity。 Add truth to a pile of red brick and you have a school。 Add justice to the far…flung round of human endeavor and you have civilization。 Put them all together； exalt them above their present imperfections； add to them the vision of humankind redeemed； forever free of need and strife and you have a future lighted with the radiant colors of hope。
第二次生命的启示（1）
拉尔夫？里士满
就在十年前，我与拿着听诊器的医生相对而坐。他说：“你的左肺叶上部有一处坏损，病情正在恶化……”听到这些，我顿时愣住了，他接着说道：“你必须放下工作，卧床休息。稍后，我们会对你进行进一步的观察……”对于我的病情，医生也不是太确定。
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